Life with Jasmine, Juliet and Buttercup, Our Rescued Dachshunds

Random notes on our experience with THREE rescued miniature dachshunds

Morning is Broken

on September 25, 2008

Jasmine is showing signs of greater confidence–and defiance.

Our morning routine has been pretty consistent.  Hubby gets up early early early in the morning to get ready for work.  He takes a shower and gets dressed.  He grabs Jasmine’s leash and comes to her bed and snaps the leash on her.  He then takes her outside for her morning business, feeds her and leaves.  She eats her food after he leaves, then comes thundering down the hallway to wake me up with a wag and a lick.

While Jasmine has been somewhat resistant to his taking her out in the morning (she plants her butt in the bed, her front paws embed in her blanket and she pulls back on the leash with her head), she does get moving with him and follows him after her short act of defiance.  However, Jasmine has recently broken her morning routine–she has reverted back to slipping under the bed so he can’t take her out.  Given that we have a king-size bed, she has found the “sweet” spot where hubby can’t reach her.  She sneaks under while he’s taking a shower, and she doesn’t come out until he’s left.

Or, at least, she tries to.  I haven’t let her get away with it.  He leaves the room, I get her out from under the bed, snap on her leash and take her out to the kitchen.  He then takes her outside and continues with the routine.  He wanted to not go through the hassle of getting her out from under the bed, but I believe that if she will continue to defy him if we allow her to get away with it.  She’s testing her “pack” status and is trying to be above him.  By allowing her to defy him, he’s supporting her stance.

I still don’t understand why she’s so suspicious and scared of him.  It has been 14 months.  The only time she comes near him is when I’m near him.  By touching him, it’s almost like I’ve given my “blessing” for her to approach him.  If I move away, she won’t go near him.  When she finally does come close, she always gets the attention that she wants and the loving she craves, but we can’t seem to get her to stop being scared of him.  If he moves, she jumps and stares at him suspiciously.  She even barked at him (yes, one of less than a dozen times she’s barked) the other morning because he broke his morning routine and didn’t leave after fixing her breakfast.  He came back into the bedroom and we both heard a little bark.  He went back into the living room to check on her.  Nothing was wrong except for her obvious displeasure with him still in the house.

It’s also interesting that if we’re together in some way–sitting together in a chair, on the floor, etc.–she will always want to be with us.  She jumps and sniffs to get our attention.  I don’t know if it’s a pack thing or if she just wants to get my attention away from him and onto her.  Is she jealous of my giving attention to someone else?  What happens when we get another dog?


2 responses to “Morning is Broken

  1. Guy says:

    Read something interesting about pack issues on a blog:

    “Establishing pack leadership is done without force. What are you doing to establish that you are the leader? Do you make him sit before feeding him? Just that simple act is him offering submission willingly.

    It’s important to remember that only LOWER pack members FORCE submission. Pack leaders never force it. It is willingly offered. So if you are being forceful at all, you are showing him that you aren’t the leader. Make sure that you eat before he does. Pack leaders enjoy their food leisurely then the lower pack members are allowed to eat.

    Training is a great way to show your leadership. By obeying your simple commands, your dog is showing you his respect. If you allow your dog on the furniture, make him earn it. He has to sit first and then be invited up. If he jumps up on anything without being asked, he is immediately told “off”. Dogs view height as elevated status as well. They are allowed up but only after the leader grants permission.”

    Good luck!

  2. mwdonnelly says:


    Thanks for sharing the comments from the blog. It’s very helpful!

    I know that I have Jasmine’s respect as pack leader, but I don’t think my husband does. The training idea is a good one…and one that he hasn’t practice in a while. I give commands and training every day, but because of Jasmine’s fear or reluctance to even be close to my husband, it’s been hard to have him train her.

    It sounds like *we’re* the ones who need further training!


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